If you’ve read my previous stuff, you have seen that I talk about why you need to get rid of toxic people, get rid of negativity, and take responsibility for your life in order to be happy, fulfilled and empowered in your life. So it makes sense for me to say that another important thing you must do is to oust your addiction to all of the garbage that is happening in your life.
If you do not do this, nothing will ever change, you must be brave and get outside of your comfort zone
When I talk about how to get rid of negativity and toxic people, many people will read it and say how powerful the advice is but then they will never take any action. They don’t try to make a change in their lives to become happier and fulfilled.
Why could this be?
Because too many people are comfortable in their lives of misery. They may not know any better or they may be afraid that aiming for a life without misery would be a waste of time and energy.
In other words, they are afraid that they are going to crash and burn if they try to get out of the situation that they’re in because they do not believe such a life is possible. This comfort zone mentality leads to what I call a “misery addiction” and in my opinion it is a public health crisis.
Look at how many ads on television talk about medications for depression and anxiety. Not only that, but depression and anxiety are two of the biggest psychological issues in the western world.
This is because most of the western world’s population consign themselves to lives that suck and they do not understand that there is a way out. And like I said before, if they do understand that there is a way out, they do not act because they are afraid.
So how do we break out of this addiction? How can we be more productive in our lives and empower ourselves to live the lives that we truly want for ourselves?
Live out Your Truth
Living out what is true to you is incredibly important, it means to live in such a way that is congruent with your beliefs, values, and goals. It also means not just saying that you will do something but also executing it. When you live in truth and congruence, you are not simply settling for a life that isn’t right for you, instead, you are creating the life that God meant for you to have.
Living with congruence to your beliefs, values, and goals is very rewarding, but it is also hard. Toxic people may try to talk you out of changing your life so it is in line with what you want because these sorts of people tend to be very insecure and self-loathing.
These people will resent the happiness that you are creating for yourself by living in line with your values and they may even despise the fact that your values do not necessarily line up with theirs. They are threatened by the very fact that when you live out you values instead of theirs because that you are thinking for yourself and not allowing others to control you and toxic people love to control others.
That’s why you must ditch the toxic people from your life and surround yourself with people who are in line with your new way of living. This will not be easy and you may be lonely for a while. But with time, patience, and persistence you will be able to find good people who will support you in your values and dreams.
Living your truth is also difficult because it may force you to venture outside of your comfort zone and take some risks, but if you are willing to take the growing pains of changing your life, you will notice that you will be more fulfilled living a life that is in line with who you are.
When we impact other people’s lives in a positive matter, we feel good. In fact, helping others can give you a sense of accomplishment and may even be a bit euphoric. This is because we as human beings are social creatures and are wired to work together for the survival of our species.
So, if you are feeling a bit miserable and find yourself not doing anything for others, break out of your comfort zone by doing the exact opposite.
When you see just how much of an impact you make on others, it will lift up your own mood and even increase your confidence as well.
I can tell you that the times I have changed people’s lives for the better, either through work, this website, or volunteering, I have noticed my mood drastically change. It gave me a sense of fulfillment knowing that I made a positive impact on someone’s life.
That same sense of impact is also the driving force behind why I have created this website, I wanted to empower people to live out the best versions of themselves and that in addition to helping others through sports rehabilitation and physical therapy is my calling in life.
Gratitude is the opposite of misery. Grateful people will never allow themselves to sink into pits of despair in misery for too long because they are totally aware of the good things that are in their lives. They understand that although there are tough circumstances in life, they have good things to look forward to because they see the blessings in the small things.
They are grateful for simply being alive and they are also thankful for things like access to clean water, food, and clothing.
If you want to fight misery in your life, always try to find the blessing in everything, even the negative stuff. Chances are if there is something bad going on in your life, there is a lesson to be learned and being thankful for that lesson is a great attitude shift that will help prevent you from succumbing to your misery addiction.
Because misery is so addictive, thinking in this way may feel uncomfortable. But just like with living out your truth and helping others, if you are able to handle the initial pain of being grateful for the small things in life, you will notice that you will be happier in the long run.
If you have any other ideas on how to kick the misery habit, please tell us in the comment section below. Thank you for reading this article and please make sure that you start applying the advice in here as well as the other articles as soon as today. See you soon and take care!