The Four Pillars of Empowerment

The Pillars of the Site:

This website is based on four pillars that are the value system of what we do here. Following these pillars does not guarantee success since that is dependent on each person and their individual work ethic, however, I am confident that if you follow these principles you will see your life change for the better.

Pillar of Never Giving Up On Your Dreams: 

“If you’re going through hell keep going”-Winston Churchill

This site embodies the value that no matter what happens in life, you should never ever give up on the goals you set for yourself. EVER. If you have desires in your life, desires that point you towards a better and more fulfilling life, it is your birthright to claim them.  No one can do this for you, you have to do it yourself and you may be told by friends and family that you shouldn’t.

And why may your friends and family say that to you? After all, they are supposed to support you and help you move forward in life as you would for them.

Because they have resigned themselves to a prison that they made for themselves.  A prison

of learned helplessness that is slowly robbing them of the life that God gave them.  They may be unaware of such a prison and may have good intentions for you when they tell you to settle for less, but it is imperative that you do not listen to them and keep moving forward with your dreams.

Whether it’s a failed business plan, a failed relationship or another pitfall in life, it is important that you never ever give up on moving forward towards your better life.   By doing so, you will eventually reach the point in your life of massive success and all of the critics and the haters will realize that they were wrong.

You may also inspire some of these people to free themselves from their own mental prison and become the best versions of themselves as well. Such inspiration is one of the greatest gifts you could give to someone and can be another motivator to push yourself towards self-actualization.

Just think how many lives you could change by becoming the best version of yourself.  Think about how many people could be encouraged and motivated through your actions and progress, it is a very satisfying feeling.

Pillar of Never Settling for a Life That Isn’t Right For You:

Whether it is a toxic relationship, a job that you hate or a life situation that is preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself, it is important that you never settle on remaining in these situations.

By doing so you are cheating yourself out of the life that you have always dreamed of.  By doing so you may look back on your life on your deathbed and think to yourself “What if?”. By doing so you cave in to your fears of the unknown and prevent yourself from experiencing your life the way it was meant to be experienced.

Are you with someone who is constantly berating you and treating you unfairly? Are you stuck in a dead-end job with no hope of upward mobility and the pay sucks?

Do your friends talk down to you and laugh at you whenever you even hint at making your life better for yourself?

Do you feel used and under-appreciated in your personal and professional relationships? Do you suffer from low self-confidence and feel as though you are not worthy of a better life?

If the answer to any of these questions is yes then this site is 100% for you.  I have suffered from low self-esteem, I have had girlfriends and friends who have taken me for granted, used me and did not appreciate me.

I have had jobs that I absolutely hated and my boss did not appreciate an ounce of what I did for them.

I have been there. I have also overcome those problems which are why I made this site, to help you the reader to overcome your own problems and difficulties in life and to help you realize that there are better opportunities out there for you, both personally and professionally.

I am not a psychiatrist or a psychologist but I do have experience with these things and with what I know I will provide insight on this website as to how you can handle the storms in your life.

I will also provide advice on how to handle different areas of your life professionally and personally to help you reach your fullest potential in life.

This will include dating, career advice, motivation and advice on personal and professional relationships.

Pillar of Never Allowing Yourself to Stagnate:

“If you’re green you’re growing. When you’re ripe you rot” – Ray Kroc

During the first few years of working on my undergrad degree, I had heard this quote from a college professor of mine, who said that he noticed a lot of students in his Kinesiology course were complacent and did not apply themselves and set themselves up to succeed.

Little did I know at the time that this quote was by Ray Kroc, a successful businessman and the reason why McDonald’s is one of the most successful fast food chains around.

Although I don’t condone eating at McDonald’s for obvious health reasons you can’t discredit the power behind his words, Kroc’s attitude of never stagnating made McDonald’s into the successful business that you know of today.  Hence why I have included this principle as a pillar of empowering yourself.

If you want to become the best version of yourself possible, you must never allow yourself to become stagnant and complacent.

No matter how successful you become you must always aim to do better.  This is easier said than done but if you apply this principle to your life you will notice that you will consistently get results and stand out from the competition.

A great example of this is my friend from college.  He is into weight lifting and fitness, wants to become a physical therapist and start his own physical therapy practice out of graduate school.

He has not started PT school yet but lifting, fitness and improving his body are all passions of his.  He has always preached to me that you should never be satisfied with the progress you make, that you should always make yourself better and that no matter what you keep making progress.

It is this attitude that makes him and any other bodybuilder or fitness nut successful and why my friend will be a great physical therapist someday. It is this attitude that is required to empower yourself and to become the best version of yourself.

Pillar of Building Your Self Up and Surrounding Yourself With Good People Who Will Do The Same:

While I was in high school I had made the decision to leave behind a certain
group of friends.  These people were completely self-interested, had no ambitions in life and they always tried to find some way to bring me down either with insults or their drama. I had remained in this situation because of the self-esteem issues that I had.

By junior year of high school, I told myself that enough was enough and I left these people behind.  By that point I only had two loyal friends left who had my back. Some people may say that sucks but I say no.  It’s better to have a few friends who will build you up than to have several who use you and take you for granted.

After freshman year of college, I transferred from my hometown’s community college and off to a four-year college for the next few years to finish up my bachelor’s degree.

For the next few weeks, I was alone and struggled to find good friends.  That was until I met one of my closest friends across the dorm from me.

We spent hours together and he had my back and I had his.  We built each other up and supported each other when we were down.

The next year I had met another person who was in my major that I became fast friends with.  In introduced him to my other friend and the three of us became a great team. We had each others’ backs no matter what.  If one of us was down, the other two would come and try to pick him up.

The point to all of this is that I had by complete accident surrounded myself with two people who built me up, who I built up and who supported me no matter what.

This was important because for 3 out of the 4 years I was working on my undergrad degree, I was suffering from a horrible bout of depression and low self-esteem.

These two people helped me immensely and if it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t be where I am today.  Not only that, but they taught me the value of surrounding yourself with the right people and to never settle for superficial relationships.

 

So Why Should You Follow These Principles?

As I said before, I cannot guarantee your success as that is fully dependent upon you and how hard you are willing to work and make sacrifices to get to your intended destination.

However, I know that many successful people including friends of mine have followed these principles and have seen improvement in all areas of life.

I have also studied many successful entrepreneurs such as Elon Musk and Steve Jobs and what I have noticed is that is they follow these principles.

Heck, some of the most famous entrepreneurs of our time as well as some good friends of mine are the source of inspiration for creating this site and establishing the pillars for it.

What I have also noticed is that the friends of mine who apply these pillars to their life also tend to have successful friendships, professional relationships, and romantic relationships.

I have achieved success in my life as well by following these pillars and I will continue to grow and achieve more throughout my life as I apply them every day.

As a disclaimer, I am not responsible for any job loss or loss of friends due to following these principles.  It is your responsibility to make a plan for yourself to execute your goals with mitigated risk to you.

2 thoughts on “The Four Pillars of Empowerment

  1. The older I get, the more important it is to take into consideration everything you just mentioned in this post.

    The pillar of never giving up on your dreams is paramount to succeeding. No matter what you do in life, if you love it and can dream it, do it! Nver give up on the dream!

    The pillar for never settling on a life that isn’t right for you comes from following your dream in pillar one. If you follow your dream, you can never end up in a life you don’t want.

    The pillar to never stagnate is critical to growth both emotionally and mentally. Mcdonalds is a prime example. They grew and saw the future before anyone else. Strive to be better tomorrow than you are today. Great pillar!

    I never would have believed pillar 4 if I hadn’t lived it myself. Growing up I was surrounded by people that drank, smoked, etc. Guess what I did? Yup, drank and smoked, etc. Amazingly when I stopped hanging with that crowd guess what happened? Yup, quit everything!

    Birds of a feather stick together is true.

    Really enjoyed this post Bilszd! Keep em coming!

    1. Absolutely! Glad that you have been able to relate all of these to your life. I hope you can find opportunities to apply them and be conscious of them everyday.

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